How to Keep Your Partner Obsessed With You (Forever)

How to Keep Your Partner Obsessed With You (Forever)

Love Isn’t Enough—They Have to Want You.

Most people think love and attraction are the same thing. They aren’t.

Love is comforting, stable, and warm. It’s the deep knowing that someone is there for you, no matter what.

Desire? Desire is fire. It’s longing, craving, that intoxicating pull that makes your partner look at you across the room and think, I need them. Now.

Here’s the harsh truth: Without desire, love starts to feel like friendship.

Most relationships don’t break because of a lack of love—they break because of a lack of wanting.

So, how do you keep them craving you, chasing you, longing for you—even years into the relationship?

Let’s talk about it.


🔥 WHY DESIRE FADES (AND HOW TO STOP IT)

At the beginning of a relationship, everything is exciting. You don’t know everything about each other yet. There’s uncertainty, mystery, the thrill of the chase.

Over time? You get comfortable. Predictable. Safe. And while safety is essential for love, desire thrives in tension.

🛑 You stop flirting. You assume they already know you want them. (They need reminders.)
🛑 You stop playing the game. You don’t challenge them anymore. There’s no chase, no thrill.
🛑 You become too available. There’s no anticipation, no “I can’t wait to have you” moments.
🛑 You forget to make them feel chosen. They become part of the routine instead of the reason your blood runs hot.

The good news? You can get that spark back—and keep it forever.


🔥 HOW TO MAKE THEM WANT YOU—FOR LIFE

1️⃣ Keep Playing the Game
Desire isn’t passive—it’s a game. A push and pull. A dance of attraction, tension, and release.

  • Flirt like you just met. Make eye contact across the room and smirk.
  • Challenge them. Play hard to get just a little. Make them work for it.
  • Tease before you give in. Make them earn the kiss, the touch, the pleasure. Let "no, don't" become "no, don't stop."

(Need help bringing this energy back? Play a round of Deeper: The Game and let it guide you. 😉)


2️⃣ Keep Your Attention Magnetic
One of the sexiest things you can do? Be present.

  • When they touch you, react.
  • When they talk, listen like they’re the most fascinating person in the world.
  • When you kiss, take your time.
  • Make being with you rewarding.

So many people drift through relationships half-distracted. But when you make your partner feel like they have your full, undivided attention? They can’t get enough of you.


3️⃣ Keep Them Guessing (Just a Little)
People crave surprise, anticipation, the unknown.

  • Send them a filthy text in the middle of the day—but don’t follow up. Let them think about it until they see you.
  • Try something new—a new look, a new touch, a new kind of play.
  • Leave a little mystery. Let them wonder what’s on your mind.

You don’t have to play mind games—just don’t be so predictable that they know what’s coming at every turn.


4️⃣ Don’t Give Them Everything at Once
Anticipation is everything.

  • Make them wait. Stretch out the moment before you give in. Linger. Savor. Annoy. Play.
  • Pull back right when they lean in. A smirk, a pause, a glance—it drives them wild. Allow them to force or direct your body wordlessly. 
  • Say “Not yet.” When you finally do? It’s so much better.

Let them feel the want.


5️⃣ Make Them Feel Irreplaceable
Wanting someone is different from knowing they belong to you. If your partner doesn’t feel truly chosen, they’ll pull away, even if they don’t realize it.

  • Look at them like they’re the only one in the room.
  • Let them know you would choose them again—right now, today, over anyone else.
  • Protect what’s yours. (Read why possessiveness is a good thing.)
  • Claim them publicly.

People stay where they feel wanted, needed even. They thrive where they feel valued. They crave where they feel chosen.


🔥 LOVE ISN’T JUST ABOUT STAYING TOGETHER. IT’S ABOUT WANTING EACH OTHER.

Love is great. But love without fire, without tension, without wanting? That’s just companionship.

So, here’s your challenge:

✨ Make them want you today. Not just love you.
✨ Make them chase you, tease you, crave you.
✨ Remind them why they’re obsessed with you.

And if you don’t know where to start? Deeper: The Game is waiting.

Go play. Stay wanted. Keep them coming back for more. 💋🔥

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1 comment

Thank you so much for this. I think this explains why I don’t feel liked in any of my relationships after a while. It just felt like I’m whatever. Maybe it’s the autism but the change in relationship dynamics indicates a lack of care, so I disconnect.

Ryan

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