The weather is beautiful this time of year. When I see weather like this; chirping birds, fresh air, and sunshine; I think, "Let's go out there and get active. Let's go for a bike ride." I'm not the only person thinking that.

Some people are thinking about being active in a slightly different way. A little more playful. A little less athletic. A lot more sexual. For a lot of people, the first beautiful weather of the year inspires the thought, "Let's go out there and knock some boots. Let's have some fun. Let's get naked. Let's shake our titties!"

So, today we're talking about how to enjoy outdoor sex a little more safely; without getting arrested, without getting bitten, without getting caught, and without embarrassing yourself.

Is Outdoor Sex Legal?

The first question almost everyone asks is whether having sex outdoors is actually legal.
The short answer is: usually no.

Here in America, and specifically where I live in Detroit, Michigan, public sex is generally illegal. Most people already know that. What they're really trying to figure out is where the line is. How much nudity is acceptable? How much privacy is enough?

In many places, being topless may be legal depending on local laws. Being completely nude usually isn't. But the bigger question isn't just what you're doing. It's where you're doing it.

 

Location Matters

When shooting the video for this, I went to a local park that's well known for cruising and private encounters. There's usually going to be some place near you that's used for something similar. Familiarize yourself with these areas through online forums like Reddit.

Even in places that are famous for this sort of thing, considerations must be made. If you're going to do something like this, you want to move well off the beaten path into areas that provide genuine privacy. The goal is to be somewhere people aren't likely to stumble across accidentally.

In many places, making a reasonable effort to avoid exposing yourself to the public can make a meaningful difference in how authorities view the situation, even though it doesn't make illegal conduct legal. Privacy matters.

Choose a places that's full of little hidden pockets surrounded by dense trees. On the other hand, wide-open clearings aren't ideal. You want tree cover, uneven terrain, and locations away from the main walking paths where people naturally travel.

 

Dress for the Environment

The number one tip I always want to give people is clothing. Make sure what you're wearing is dark and loose. Make sure it gives you easy access to the parts you need access to if you want to be, you know, laying on things or kneeling on things. Make sure those areas are covered in nondescript ways. Blue jeans, jackets, hats, gloves; that sort of dealio.

You could also make sure you're wearing nice, thick cotton fabrics, which allow for freedom of movement while providing a little extra protection. A lot of people you'll see out in the park are literally just wearing gym shorts and a T-shirt. That is probably the most common outfit people wear when they're going out to have fun in nature.

But there is a secondary benefit to wearing a bit more clothing. It gives you a little padding and makes nature a bit more ergonomic, because leaning against a log or kneeling on rocky ground isn't always the most comfortable experience. It'll also help protect you from bugs.

 

Bugs

Mosquitoes, ticks, gnats, flies; the list is endless. They're going to be annoying, but they typically have very specific activity times. The best thing you can do is become knowledgeable about what's happening in your area insect-wise, then take appropriate precautions. Long, loose clothing is generally your best protection.

Plants

Bugs aren't the only thing trying to ruin your good time. Plants can be surprisingly unpleasant too.

Poison ivy, poison oak, and poison sumac can all cause itchy, blistering rashes after even brief skin contact. Learn what they look like before heading into wooded areas. The old saying, "Leaves of three, let it be," is a decent starting point for identifying poison ivy, but don't rely on rhymes alone. Spend a few minutes looking up the common poisonous plants in your area before you go.

Also watch out for thorny shrubs, stinging nettles, sharp grasses, and low branches that can scratch or poke you in places you'd really rather not be scratched or poked.
One simple trick is to take a minute and inspect the ground before you settle in. What looks soft from a distance may be hiding vines, thorns, ant hills, broken glass, or rocks. A thirty-second inspection can save you days of discomfort afterward.

 

Stop and Observe

Once you've arrived, don't rush. Take a moment to actually look around. Just because a place is usually quiet doesn't mean someone else didn't have the exact same idea you did. If you've found a beautiful hidden spot, I promise someone else has looked at it and thought, "You know what... this is so scenic. I should get my dick sucked."

Frankly... I agree with them. Nature has a certain magic to it. It feels freeing. Almost spiritual. That's part of why so many people enjoy being intimate outdoors.

 

Outdoor Etiquette

Eventually, you may encounter other people. If you do... You saw absolutely nothing.

Unless someone is being harmed or genuinely needs help, you didn't see a thing. There has always been an unspoken camaraderie among people who enjoy public play. People keep their mouths shut so everyone can continue enjoying the space. That's important because, once locations become too well known, they often disappear. Police increase patrols. Parks change policies. People lose places they've quietly enjoyed for years.

That doesn't mean outdoor sex is legal or that you won't be cited if you're caught. It simply means enforcement priorities vary, and officers often have more serious public safety issues competing for their attention. The less attention everyone brings to these locations, the longer they tend to remain peaceful.

 

Leave No Trace

Don't forget that you're still in nature. Campground rules apply. Take everything with you.
Don't leave clothing. Don't leave wrappers. Don't leave trash. Leave the area exactly as you found it. That means don't leave your sample jars or airless pumps of lube sitting in the forest. 

Besides simply respecting the environment, littering is often much easier to prove than whatever else you were doing. If you're already taking a legal risk, don't create unnecessary ones. Being on your P's and Q's is always your best bet.

My Philosophy

I want to be clear about something. I'm not telling you to go have sex outdoors. My job with Let's Talk About Sex has never been to judge people. My job is to help people do the things they already want to do as safely, intelligently, and successfully as possible.

Call me chaotic neutral if you want. As long as we're talking about willing, consenting adults, I frankly don't give a shit. I don't know where you're reading this from. Maybe you live somewhere with nude beaches. Maybe you have access to private property. Maybe your local laws are completely different from mine.

My job is simply to provide information so you can make informed decisions for yourself. Helping people have better sex is one of my greatest passions. I genuinely believe great sex is one of the keys to a happy, healthy life. If I can help people get there a little more safely and a little more thoughtfully, then I've done my job.

Keep it sexy, everybody.