Safer Sex Guide: Anonymous Hookups, Gloryholes, Cruising and Sex Clubs

Navigating the world of anonymous hookups, gloryholes, cruising, and sex clubs can be thrilling, but it's crucial to prioritize safety and health. Whether you're a seasoned adventurer or a curious newcomer, this guide will provide essential tips to ensure your experiences are as safe as they are exciting.

 

Informed Consent:

Before we go forward, I want to take a moment to dissuade people who shouldn't be here and entice those who should. If you read the next passage and don't nope out of here, I wish you the best of luck on your adventures!

 

All of these activities are risky, variable, and can involve masses of rejection even for the hottest people. If you like everything perfect and pristine, stick to curating hookups. With anonymous play you could end up having sex with a coworker, friend or family member. With public play you risk jail, fines and exposure via hidden cameras. With all of these experiences you're risking your health and life - everyone is vulnerable to weapons. Still, remember, most assaults happen between people who know each other, not strangers.

 

General tips for Anonymous Hookups, Gloryholes, Cruising and Sex Clubs

Know Your Boundaries - Before diving into any anonymous encounter, take a moment to understand your own boundaries and limits. What are you comfortable with? What are your hard nos? Clear boundaries help ensure a positive experience.

Communication is Key - Even in anonymous settings, communication is crucial. Use direct and clear language to express your needs and boundaries. Asking questions before you arrive will always help the session go easier. Non-verbal cues are also essential, so be mindful of your partner's body language and reactions.

Use The Protection You've Pre-chosen - Always use protection to reduce the risk of sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and unwanted pregnancies. Condoms, dental dams, and gloves are your best friends. If you plan to use these items, make sure to carry them with you and know how to use them correctly. No one is responsible for your health but you.

Carry Safer Sex Supplies - In addition to condoms and dental dams, consider carrying lube, hand sanitizer, and disinfectant wipes. Lube reduces friction and lowers the risk of condom breakage, while hand sanitizer and wipes help maintain hygiene. If you don't use barriers, antibacterial wipes will provide added protection for infections. A Hypochlorous Acid solution will provide the most convenient sanitation.

Stay Sober (or Manage Your Substance Use) - Being under the influence can impair judgment and make it harder to follow through on safer sex practices. If you choose to use substances, do so in moderation and always keep an eye on your drink. Keep in mind certain drugs like poppers, meth, weed, and crack can all be inhaled second hand. Regional variations will also make certain drugs more dangerous than others. Find a 40 year old and ask for that specific guidance. Here in Michigan Fentanyl is such a problem, I advise against anything powdered or pill. I would also advise you to help Narcan/Naloxalone on hand - it can save yours or someone else life.

Choose Safe Locations - When cruising or visiting sex clubs, opt for reputable and well-known locations. If you're meeting someone for an anonymous hookup, pick a safe, neutral location where you feel secure. If you want to keep risk at a minimum, private sex clubs and bath houses provide the best legal cover - also security through obscurity.

Don't Take rejection personally - If you get a no, just bow out courteously. There's always another big dick or round ass. There's always a chance you could get a second chance that night or another. Plus, you should seek partners who're enthusiastic, even for a momentary fling.

Trust Your Instincts - If something doesn't feel right, trust your gut. It's okay to walk away from a situation that feels unsafe or uncomfortable. Your well-being comes first. Blue balls is a much better fate than death.

Post-Encounter Care - After your encounter, take care of yourself. Clean up, check in with your feelings, and seek medical advice if you have any concerns about exposure to STIs. Go back to real life and reconnect with your family.

Confidentiality - Think of this places and experiences like Narnia. What happens in these places should stay there. Telling your friends a story is one thing. Pointing the people out when you see them in real life is beyond the pale. A knowing glance is more than enough. 

 

 

Specific Tips for Different Scenarios

 

Anonymous Hookups

• Screen Carefully: Use apps with strong security features and take your time to screen potential partners. But realistically you'll be where the boys you want are.
• Use social knowledge: Show the profile to your friends to see if they have experience with that person.
• Tell Someone: Share your location with a trusted person. It's usually more dignified to have consistent location permissions vs dropping a pin every time you're visiting the circus.

 

Cumdumps

• Brevity: Don't be afraid to nut and go. On average a bottom is happy to just be a tool for release. If you want to linger or are a long-winded fucker, just ask before.
• Public: These are usually hosted in hotels. Be respectful of the property and guest so the hole can get fucked in peace.
• Atmosphere: Cumdumps can be absolute violently smelly places. Cum and booty and man sweat are powerful fragrances. Be prepared for that, it's almost unavoidable. If you can't handle it, go early.
• Hygiene: Cleanse your skin as soon as possible. This is one of the most fun and also most biologically dangerous activities to participate in.
• Bring Your Own Supplies: Use your own condoms and lube to ensure they are of good quality. Poppers will also be your responsibility.

 

Gloryholes

• Inspect the Environment: Ensure the location is clean and appears well-maintained. Avoid small openings as these are impractical and put your safety at risk. You need to have some confirmation you're penetrating what you want to be.
• Hygiene: Cleanse your skin as soon as possible. This is one of the most fun and also most biologically dangerous activities to participate in. Although, oral gloryholes are more hygienic by the nature of a self-cleaning mouth.
• Bring Your Own Supplies: Use your own condoms and lube to ensure they are of good quality. Poppers will also be your responsibility.

 

Cruising

• Be Discreet: Respect the environment and be aware of your surroundings. Stick to the gay cruising areas. Typically, these areas are either not policed or selected for easy running and hiding.
• Public vs. Private Property: Be aware of the difference between public and private property. Engaging in sexual activities on private property without permission can lead to trespassing charges.
• Look for Natural Cover: Use natural features like trees, bushes, or secluded trails to maintain privacy.
• Know the Signals: Familiarize yourself with common cruising signals to communicate interest and consent.
• Quick Escape Plan: Always have a quick and safe way to leave the area if necessary.
• Travel Light: Carry only essentials so you can leave quickly if the situation changes.

 

Sex Clubs/Bathhouses

• Follow Club Rules: Every club has its own set of rules. Make sure you know and respect them.
• Use On-Site Supplies: Most reputable sex clubs provide safer sex supplies, but it's always good to bring your own as a backup.