How to Master Fellatio: Techniques to Please Him, Save Your Neck, and Enhance His Pleasure
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Mastering the art of fellatio is like learning how to play a beautiful, intricate instrument. Every touch, every stroke, every movement is part of the melody that brings your partner’s pleasure to life. And like any great trumpeteer, playing his "trumpet" requires rhythm, skill, and knowing how to avoid strain so you can deliver a show-stopping performance without hurting yourself in the process.
But here’s the thing: fellatio is often brushed off as an easy task, and that can lead to some major missteps. People don’t always respect male sexual pleasure the way they should. Men might not say this directly because it’s awkward or they fear starting a fight, but trust me—they notice when their pleasure isn’t a priority. It can hurt their feelings and make them feel unimportant. And honestly, that’s where the performance fails. Your job as the trumpeteer is to make him feel like the most important organism or instrument in the world for the duration of this performance.
Ready to give your best performance yet? Let’s dive into the techniques that will help you play his trumpet, protect your neck, and get that well-deserved standing ovation.
Step 1: Warm Up—Find Your Comfortable Starting Position
Before you start blowing the horn, you need to get into a comfortable position, both for you and your partner. The right position will not only help you stay in sync with his pleasure but also save your neck and jaw from strain over time.
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Use pillows for support: Much like a musician finds a good seat before playing, use pillows to elevate his hips or support your own body. Whether he’s lying on his back or seated, proper support keeps you both comfortable and allows you to focus on playing rather than fighting discomfort.
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Experiment with angles: His “trumpet” may respond differently based on the angle you approach from. Try starting at a 45-degree angle from his body for a more ergonomic position. This can also allow for deeper strokes without putting unnecessary strain on your neck. The key is to adjust and experiment with what feels most natural for you.
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Switch between positions: Don’t be afraid to change positions during the act. If your neck or jaw is getting tired, switch to side-lying or spooning. These positions allow you to rest your neck while still keeping the rhythm going.
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Use your feet for neck relief: Consider positions where you can utilize your feet or legs to support your body. For example, if you’re on your knees or sitting upright, use your feet to adjust your body weight so you can maintain a straighter neck posture. This small adjustment can help reduce strain and allow you to focus on maintaining your rhythm without discomfort.
Step 2: Establish Your Rhythm
Every great performance needs a rhythm, and fellatio is no different. Establishing the right tempo and staying consistent is what will turn a good experience into an unforgettable one.
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Start slow, build tempo: Just like warming up on an instrument, begin with slow, deliberate movements. Gently stroke the shaft with your hand while teasing the head with your lips and tongue. Take your time, letting him settle into the sensations before picking up the pace.
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Use your hand sparingly: This is oral sex, not a handjob. Your mouth should be doing most of the work. That said, the hand can be used to complement the rhythm. Match the movement of your hand to your mouth to create a seamless, continuous motion—but keep the focus on your lips and tongue.
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Wetness is key, but personal: Wetness is highly subjective. Some men love lots of saliva, while others prefer a drier experience. Ask him what he likes, and if you need more moisture, drink some water beforehand. You can also pull your tongue back in your mouth to stimulate your salivary glands. Mucus is your friend—it’s slipperier and lasts longer than saliva.
Step 3: Avoid Neck Strain—Technique Over Force
One of the biggest mistakes people make during fellatio is trying to “force” the deep notes without proper technique. Remember, your partner’s pleasure doesn’t rely on how deep you can go—it’s about how well you play his instrument.
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Mind your hands: A lot of people love putting their hands on the back of their partner’s head, but this can disrupt your rhythm and strain your neck. If you enjoy hands-on contact, suggest alternatives like touching their shoulders, caressing their face, or gently resting their hand at the back of your head without pushing.
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Focus on what feels good for you: Deep-throating may be part of the act, but it’s not a requirement for a great performance. Instead of trying to push your limits, focus on your own comfort. Use your tongue to explore different textures, or lightly suck at the tip while using your hand to handle the deeper strokes.
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Gently tug on his pubes: Before you get too far into the act, a quick, gentle tug on his pubic hair will help dislodge any loose hairs. This saves you from a less-than-sexy choking moment and keeps the momentum going smoothly.
Step 4: Breathe—The Secret to a Sustained Performance
As in any musical performance, mastering your breath is essential for stamina and flow. Deep-throating in particular requires steady breathing to avoid feeling overwhelmed.
- Breathe through your nose: When you’re focusing on depth, it’s important to maintain calm, steady breathing through your nose. This keeps your airflow consistent, which helps prevent gagging and maintains your focus on the rhythm.
- Take breaks to swallow: Just like a trumpeteer pauses between notes, take moments to come up for air. Swallowing naturally resets your breath and allows you to pace yourself. Use these moments to lick or kiss the shaft before diving back in.
Step 5: Don’t Neglect the Balls—Scrotum Stimulation for Maximum Pleasure
If you want to take your performance to the next level, do not neglect the balls. Many men cannot ejaculate without scrotal stimulation, so paying attention to this area is crucial for a complete experience.
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Tongue or hand: Use your tongue or hand to gently massage or play with the balls. You can lightly suck on one while you stroke the shaft, or simply cradle them as you work your magic on the rest of the “trumpet.”
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Pubic hair adds sensation: Lightly letting the pubic hair on the testicles rub against your hand can add a subtle yet pleasurable sensation.
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Chin stimulation: Angle your chin to brush against his scrotum while you focus on the shaft. This can mimic the stimulation felt during intercourse, providing additional pleasure.
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Beard bonus: If you happen to have a beard, use it! The gentle scratch of facial hair against the scrotum can add a delightful layer of stimulation.
Step 6: Swallowing—Hitting the High Notes
Swallowing is often the trickiest part of the performance, but there are plenty of ways to handle this final flourish.
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Angle to avoid gagging: The trick to swallowing without gagging is to angle the penis so the ejaculation hits the roof of your mouth, rather than the back of your throat (avoiding your tonsils or the uvula—the little dangling thing back there). This helps prevent an involuntary gag reflex.
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Taste issues: If taste is an issue, have your partner read our guide for fellatio receivers. We cover how diet and other factors can improve flavor.
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Possible laxative effect: A small but real thing to note: swallowing semen can sometimes cause a laxative effect, which might be due to allergies or sensitivities. It’s rare, but I like to mention it because a surprise bathroom trip isn’t exactly fun post-concert!
Step 7: The Crescendo—Build the Pleasure for a Standing Ovation
As you continue playing, build towards the grand finale—the standing ovation. This is when consistency in rhythm and attention to detail will pay off.
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Pay attention to his cues: Just like reading the audience’s reaction during a performance, listen to his breathing, his sounds, and the way his body moves. These cues will let you know when he’s getting close. Stick to what’s working—whether it’s a faster rhythm, deeper strokes, or more focus on the tip—and stay consistent.
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Don't rush to the climax: As tempting as it is to rush toward the big finish, resist the urge. A true virtuoso knows the importance of timing. Stay focused on his pleasure and let the crescendo build naturally.
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Finish strong: As you approach the end, make sure your movements are deliberate and intentional. Whether he finishes in your mouth or otherwise, your goal is to maintain the same focus and rhythm until the very last note is played.
Final Thoughts: Play to Win the Standing Ovation
Mastering fellatio isn’t just about technique—it’s about knowing how to balance comfort, skill, and pleasure. Playing his trumpet is as much about creating a rhythm you can sustain as it is about building toward that powerful finish. Protect your neck, use your hands to complement your mouth, and most importantly, breathe your way through the performance.
With the right techniques, thoughtful rhythm, and communication, you’ll leave your partner blown away—pun intended.